Two first-generation students at Ramapo College, Kaylee Peña ’27 and Edith Torres ’27, share their perspectives on what it feels like to be a first-generation student at Ramapo College from when they decided to pursue a four-year degree to arriving on campus and starting their studies. Kaylee and Edith hope that other first-generation students and prospective students see themselves in this narrative and that others gain a greater understanding of the internal dynamics often at play in a first-generation student.

Succeeding as a first-generation college student represents something bigger than yourself

As a first-generation student, you are responsible for navigating through questions and challenges mostly on your own, from understanding college applications and managing financial aid to registering for classes, all while balancing work, life and school. You may be excited to start this new journey but also feel uneasy, worrying about the commute, responsibilities at home and meeting new people from different backgrounds. You might experience imposter syndrome, feel small, doubt your preparedness, lose motivation or think there’s no one to talk to because what you’re going through is so specific to first-generation students. Sometimes your accomplishments don’t feel like something to celebrate but instead another task to check off on your list as you work to make the most of your experience. Failure doesn’t seem like an option.

This journey takes time, patience and resilience. Figuring it out, asking questions along the way and pushing forward become part of your experience as a first-generation student. It teaches you a level of resilience you may not have known was possible. You are constantly learning new things and challenging yourself to adapt, to advocate for yourself, and to persevere through unfamiliar circumstances. Throughout this, you develop a sense of independence and desire to thrive, not only for your success but also so you can be someone your family is proud of and aspires to be.

Torres with her family enjoying a meal.

With the help of your advisors from areas across Ramapo, such as the First-Generation Student Center, Counseling Services, Educational Opportunity Fund and more, you can build a community who understands your challenges. These mentors offer a listening ear, resources and guidance that you need to help you through the tough times. With time and patience, you can regain your motivation and rediscover your passion in your studies. Your community and resources will have a positive impact on you and push you to give back to those who may face similar experiences.

 The First-Generation Student Center becomes a safe place for difficult conversations about your challenges and how to overcome them. You feel welcomed and in turn guide others into a supportive, welcoming community full of advocates who are first-generation. 

As a first-generation student at Ramapo College, you are grateful. You know that being first-generation is something to be proud of and that you are growing into your best self for you, your family and your community.